Lessons For The Modern Lady

“Ladies are not born, they are made” This particular quote has been haunting me as of late, and when I think of modern day ladies, Ulyana Sergeenko is the first one to pop into my mind. I have never met Ulyana, but I’m often left with an impression that she is today’s example of a modern lady. With her reputation for being Fashion Royalty, (mind you the Russian couturier has been called ‘The Red Queen’) the title can’t only be accredited to her eye for the elaborate, or theatrical sense of style. It’s both her elegance, and poise that resonates with the photographers’ cameras. And as I may be envious of her always expanding wardrobe, I admire the way she carries herself more. Perhaps she could be my inspiration while I attempt lessons in perfecting the art of being a modern lady.

I’ve never attended finishing school, however the novelty of it has made me wish I could attend. There is an appeal in wanting to know which fork to pair with which entrΓ©e, and the most important of the tableware; which is the dessert spoon?. Somehow I also imagine Julie Andrews being the headmistress of said imaginary finishing school my mind has created. Before I continue I, myself am not going to finishing school but I am reading up on “How to be a lady. I think it is valuable to remind myself the importance of what it means to be a lady, mainly how to be a better person. (I’m also including a link at the bottom of the website that I’m reading, it could be fun for you to check out).If Ulyana can do it, so can I- although she makes it look so effortless.

Now, when I envision a lady I see someone who can hold their head up high, no matter the situation. Someone who can remain calm and collect when life throws them off balance. And, Someone who knows how to be elegant, and poised at all the right moments. Plus the addition of good manners and proper etiquette. Ulyana seems to possess many of these qualities, and I once read that she tries to be polite by wearing the designers pieces to their fashion shows. ( it’s something, right?)


In fashion many ‘ladies’ have been the muse of famous designers over the years, think Audrey Hepburn, Bridget Bardot, and Scarlett O’Hara (to name a few) they are all the epitome of a lady. It is the way they act, the way they dress and do their makeup that makes them unusually feminine. Some of the most iconic looks include styling ones hair into a chignon, or away from the face. Ulyana isn’t afraid of showing her features ( but then again short hair, and putting her hair up flatters her face quite well)

Being ladylike fascinates, and inspires us. And, if being ladylike has been forgotten in modern times, the lesson that should be revived, in regards to fashion is what a difference posing with elegance can make. (ahem just do a google search of Ulyana Sergeenko) Which reminds me of that saying of being swallowed in ones clothing: that you want to look like you’re wearing the clothing not that your clothes are wearing you. Sometimes a little Elegance goes a long way. So the next time that you have an event to attend, elegance combined with confidence might be that perfect ‘Accessory’ you’re looking for. That’s one of the best lessons a lady can offer.

Ulyana-Sergeenko-5Isn’t elegance forgetting what one is wearing? -Yves Saint Laurent

As for manners and etiquette, these are things that should not be overlooked, or forgotten in our day to day lives. Even when life decides to be hectic, a little bit of manners and etiquette can go a long way to making the world a better place.


Β Have A Happy Weekend!!

– Zaychishka


How To Be A Lady

8 thoughts on “Lessons For The Modern Lady

    1. Just being genuine, generous and kind is a great deal of being a lady,
      so Diveca you are definitely a lady in my eyes πŸ™‚
      (I don’t know why dads like to ask that of their daughters, mine makes jabbs about that once in awhile )

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  1. I fully agree! I too think that confidence and elegance are ver important. Even when you’re not confident, faking it can make you look a lot better already. And keeping your head cool too. That’s not alway easy, but it’s very important I think to never let someone make you cry or yell in public.

    So basically you wrote down what I believe in too πŸ™‚


    1. It’s the one thing about being a woman that you can do, that you can attempt to do that will leave a lasting impression, especially if you walk into a room trying to be confident whether you’re feeling it or not at that moment. It makes a great difference.
      & that is a valid and important point in what you wrote: to never let someone make you cry or yell in public. (it also shows how strong you are mentally)

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  2. You had me at Ulyana Sergeenko πŸ™‚ You know how much I admire her style, so I do totally agree with you and learning about table etiquette would be really fun – I’d love to have fancy grown-up dinners at my villa one day πŸ™‚ Another person whose style and manners I admire is Olivia Palermo. I was just looking at her pictures earlier today and I love how she carries herself, so effortless and chic and she always wears a beautiful smile. I think this is another sign of good manners, when a public person doesn’t look down on other people and seems sweet and approachable,


    1. I keep forgetting to reply to you Natella, so I’m sorry!
      Oh, I will never forget how much you love Ulyana Sergeenko hehe
      And I hope when you have fancy dinners at the villa you will post the images…I can imagine how the scenery, and the sky could make for the perfect atmosphere..for a lavish dinner amongst guests, that would be the perfect evening.
      Olivia Palermo definitely makes things look effortless, I always remember her form the show the hills (I think) and always admiring how she dresses, she does appear to be an eloquent woman πŸ˜›
      And I agree a smile does express that.
      Ps. how have you been?

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      1. I’m sorry even more because I still haven’t replied to your e-mail that you sent to me ages ago! I am really sorry. Life got crazy in past few months πŸ™‚ I started a new job and I’m still trying to figure out how to shuffle job, blog, drawing/painting, other projects and personal life! But it’s all good in general and I will give you a more detailed update in the reply to your e-mail, hopefully one day soon! πŸ™‚ Sorry again! How about you? How have you been? Hope all is well!
        P.S. I love how you painted the atmosphere of the lavish dinner parties! I hope you’re there to help me create that marvelous ambiance and casually strike a conversation with Ulyana and Olivia, hehe πŸ™‚

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  3. Omg I forgotten about the emails!!
    That’s alright, I understand life can become busy! By the way congratulations on your new job, I hope it is one you’re happy with (and that you get to wear what you want!) and you will be able to make that transition with some time for being able to do all of the things you love, plus having your job!!
    I’ve been good, busy as well and always trying to see how I can improve my blog baby lol.
    Haha that would be nice, I can just picture how that would go and it would be an amazing to have such an elaborate, and elegant dinner party talking about the things we enjoy the most. πŸ˜›


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